What should I take to the hospital? Do you have a list? What are you bringing in your doula bag? What do you use most often out of your doula bag? I didn’t learn any breathing exercises, I DON’T KNOW HOW TO BREATHE FOR LABOR, Arrrrrrgh! As a doula, I often hear some variation of all of these as a client gets closer to her estimated due date. My advice? Are you breathing right now? Then you know how to breathe for labor. You don’t need to pack anything to have a baby. Not one thing. As long as that baby can nurse at your breast and be kept warm in your arms, you have absolutely everything your baby needs. Now if you would feel better bringing things to make your labor and postpartum more relaxing and enjoyable for you, then by all means bring anything that you feel would be helpful, but you don’t need to bring anything. You are enough.
You are enough.
As far as the things I use most often from my doula bag? I’ve been a doula for 16 years. The longer I work as a doula, the less I use from my bag. Just as the woman in labor is enough, I as her doula am enough. I have my hands, my heart, my knowledge of birth, and my complete and absolute trust in my client’s body to birth her baby. Occasionally, I’ll take out my lip balm, either for myself or my client. The hospital air is dry and lips get chapped easily. I’ll also get out a pretty hand fan if my client is feeling warm, or my rebozo/jia, or snacks. But often I don’t touch my doula bag. It’s not necessary. My client has everything she needs to have a great birth and I have everything I need to help suppor her through a great birth.
Trust in yourself and your abilities. Your body was made to complete this task. It knew how to conceive and grow a baby, and it knows how to give birth to that baby, too. Even if you needed a little help getting to this point… Especially if you needed a little help getting to this point… Have faith in yourself and your body’s ability to give birth.
I am not naive. I know from experience that sometimes a baby needs a little help to be born. But until the situation warrants changing the course of your birth, I will always assume that it is going to go exactly like you expect it to. I have faith in birth because I see it turn out so well the vast majority of the time.
Birth is not an illness. It is the culmination of an even that happened 9 months earlier. Trust in the process..
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