Dear New Mom,
Can we talk? I get it, really I do. My first child was born in November. I was so looking forward to the holidays with a new baby in the house. I was going to be on maternity leave through New Year’s. I would have time to decorate, and bake, and handcraft gifts for family and friends. I would buy adorable new outfits and toys to put under the tree for my new little bundle of joy. It was going to be fabulous.
And then my baby arrived. And it was fabulous! And it was hard. I was exhausted, breastfeeding was a struggle, and baby never seemed to sleep for more that 40 minutes at a stretch. Even though I was completely overwhelmed, I still tried to do it all. Baking, decorating, shopping, etc. The holidays past by in a blur. Did I enjoy my first holiday season with my newborn? No, not really. I was too busy trying to make things perfect for this little person who quite honestly couldn’t have cared less.
So, my advice to you, Dear Mother of a Newborn, is to be kind to yourself. If you are feeling up to doing all the Christmas things, and want to do them, then go for it. But if you find your holiday expectations were unrealistic, then cut back on everything you feel isn’t essential. You don’t need to have professional holiday portraits taken, or visit Santa, or bake cookies from scratch, or, or or… Remember, your baby is expecting nothing more from you that to be fed, kept warm, clean and dry, and loved. If you do those things it will definitely be your baby’s best Christmas ever, and very likely may be yours, too.
Happy Holidays to You and Yours!